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That’s not fair!

A few days ago I read an interview with a woman who got severely injured in a car accident 18 years ago which killed Dražen Petrović, one of the greatest basketball players in Europe, while the second woman, the driver, came out of the whole thing almost without a scratch.

She repeated in that interview several times the same sentence, “it’s not fair”. It’s not fair that she got injured and she was not even driving the car, it’s not fair that she is unable to get a job because she looses her memory from time to time, it’s not fair that she has pain everywhere, it’s not fair that she can’t remember her past, it’s not fair that she couldn’t continue her sport or model career and make living out of it etc, etc. She went on and on explaining how all this was to be blamed on the other woman, the driver of the car.

But what’s fair?

Our understanding of life is really limited and we often fool ourself believing that our luck depends on other people, organizations, governments… but the truth is quite the opposite, we are fully responsible for all our life results and everything happening to us and around us is caused only by one person.


It’s a hard concept to grasp, like for this woman, living her life in anger and disappointment believing that somebody took something from her.

It’s not easy, one sees one´s life crumbling in front of one´s eyes and one´s natural instinct is to blame others.

The real truth is that the driver who killed one person and heavily injured the second was just a tool of the universe to bring certain lessons to each person involved, including herself.

Do you think the driver had an easy time all these years knowing what she did, and especially knowing that she did a terrible mistake by driving too fast and not taking care? I’m sure she is going through living hell but that’s the lesson she has to learn.

Dražen Petrović reached the peak of his career. He did in basketball what nobody ever from Europe achieved, he went to NBA and became one of the best players there. Those who follow NBA will understand how unbelievably great things he did for those times. He also won several European and national championships, building himself to the status of basketball God.

It’s possible that he achieved his mission and it was time to go. His early death can be also caused by some previous life blockages and morality issues, who knows, but what I know for sure is that he left for a good reason.

3 persons in one car, each having to deal with different types of consequences. The driver had to deal with guilt, Dražen had to deal with his early death and the lady in question had to deal with anger and blaming.

1 accident, 3 people, 3 different lessons to be learned.

We are here on earth to learn, nothing is given to us just like that. Our life and health is not our private property, we are just borrowing it and our DUTY is to maintain it and improve it through various tests, lessons and blockages. If we fail to do so, we get pushed back.

The whole world is classroom, just for us, and if we fail the test we have nobody else to blame except ourselves. The only thing we can do is to get up and try again, until we make it. Spare your time and energy on blaming others and examine yourself and see what mistakes you did which led to such results. Once you start to look for your own mistakes and start correcting them you will notice how beautiful life is unfolding right in front of you.

Johny Miric

Co-founder of Mind Hero and wellness center Energy Clinic Hamburg. Follow him on Twitter, Tumblr or Facebook

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