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Angelina Jolie: The Dark Side… Bad just for Brad!

Angelina Jolie is still bad sometimes.

She has put a dark past behind her, one so dangerous she says, she barely survived it.  

“I’m still a bad girl. I still have that side of me … it’s just in its place now … it belongs to Brad or … our adventures.”

But she also wants it to be known that even though she’s cleaned herself up for love and her kids, she’s still a bad girl where it’s wanted!

Too much sweetness and light becomes dull after a while and through her experience Angelina knows what men want and need to keep them coming back for more.  It’s the classic, Yin / Yang friction that makes the sparks fly.  She uses her early “bad experiences” to keep her on the right track now but she still knows how to be naughty at the right time.

In a serious interview with 60 minutes, Angelina admits to living a very dark life before Brad Pitt.  After doing “the most dangerous things,” She says she’s just lucky she’s still here today because she very well could have joined the 27 Club, (the term used for the famous singers, musicians and stars who overdosed or died at a very young age).

In Andrew Morton’s new best selling unauthorized biography “Angelina” … he tells of her bad times, Angelina’s father, actor Jon Voight’s affair and Angelina’s early abandonment by her distraught mother, drugs and anorexia during her teens and early 20s, the loss of her virginity at age 14 and her addictive relationships with men and women.

This behavior shows just how her energy was seriously out of balance and she reacted in a negative and destructive way towards herself during this period of her life.

Angelina married to Jonny Lee Miller, a British actor in 1996. For the wedding she wore black leather pants and a white shirt that had her husband’s name written in her blood on the back, (she allegedly cheated on him with Madonna’s lover, Jenny Shimizu and actor Timothy Hutton) they divorced in1999. 

Her second marriage was to Billy Bob Thornton, an actor. They married on May 5, 2000 and divorced in 2003. Jolie was tabloid fodder during this period in which she and her then-husband wore vials of each other’s blood around their necks. Angelina, on her divorce from Billy Bob said:

“I’m angry. I’m sad. It’s a very difficult and sad time. It was a real deep connection, a deep marriage, so it’s not that simple to say this or that one thing caused the problems. It’s clear to me that our priorities shifted overnight. He’s focused on his music and career. I’m focused on my baby. It comes down to what’s important to you.”

Becoming friends while working on the movie, Mr. & Mrs. Smith, Brad and Angelina denied having a romantic involvement while he was married to Jennifer Aniston, however message transmission was working for them.  Brad was married to Jennifer Aniston from 2000 to 2005 when their marriage ended in divorce.  No doubt most intriguing to Jennifer Aniston – Angelina apparently had a wish list of potential partners and she had targeted Brad Pitt for seduction.

A sign of her wisdom gained the hard way, through life experience, having had several failed marriages, split relationships, and affairs, she became clearer about what was important in life and a relationship and she got it.  

Angelina: “You have to make time when you are not Mom and Dad once in a while. I think for anybody who has kids, the most important thing is that you love your children, but you also have to stay focused on each other so that you stay strong.  And you  staying strong as a couple keeps the kids in an even better place.”

Work/Life balance and spending some quality time with your partner is the big challenge for most modern marriages and partnerships and keeping the intrigue and intimacy going can be difficult especially when there are children, this is compounded when both partners are major celebrities.  Maybe because Angelina had such a difficult time during her early years, and she suffered broken relationships and experimented with sex and drugs and the dark side and that is why she makes such a commitment in her marriage to Brad.

Source: Martyn Palmer. “Angelina Jolie Reveals the Truth About Brad and Her Children.” 12/06/2010.

What seemed bad can show us our weaknesses and be the trigger necessary to change our behavior and turn it into positive strengths.  Through hard knocks Angelina was able to clean this pattern, perhaps releasing her father’s genetic message of infidelity and to learn how to be grateful for her life. Having nearly lost it, she understands the value now. 

About her relationship with Brad: 

“Our family has grown very quickly, and we have a lot of responsibility together, and we acknowledge that we are lucky we turned out be for each other everything we’d hoped. We could have been very wrong, but every challenge we hit has brought us closer. It has been that kind of relationship.”

Working on keeping the relationship functioning to provide what she never had for her family and children she has even been fixing the relationship with her estranged father which is also a very positive sign as forgiving these family relationships is a key to happiness and health. The relationship between kids and grandparents is also very important for both sides.  

Fiona McLoughlin

Editor in chief, founder of clothes design studio Global Gypsy, lifestyle designer and mindfulness expert.

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